I always had friends growing up. For as long as I can remember I had at least one Best Friend, sometimes more than one, at just about every point of my life.
I remember being very social. Yah I had attitude, there were girls I didn't like, or that didn't like me, but for the most part I was friends with just about everyone. And when given the choice, I would choose friends over family. Spending the night at friends house's, going to the mall or the movies. Anything. I loved going out with my friends, and in highschool, there were alot of us.
After graduating high school, we all went our seperate ways. We all still hung out occasionally but those times slowly faded. I started dating David in the fall and I knew pretty much right away that he was The One so I devoted ALOT of my time to him and our relationship. This meant spending even LESS time with my friends and MORE time with family, which turned out to be not so bad :)
Through the early years of our marriage we developed friends together, at church. With church changes, those friends faded too. When we had kids, we had friends that also had kids. But over the course of time and more church changes, those have also gone.
Now my husband can make friends with a brick wall in a matter of minutes and has no problem letting things roll off his back. But I know he is really hankering for some GUY friends that have the same interests as him these days.
I on the other hand I'm trying to decide where I stand on this whole Friends thing.
I have friends. I have my bestie. And others that I hang out with occasionally. And I'm fine with that. I don't feel the need to actively seek out more friends. Of course I wouldn't turn anyone away, but I often find myself feeling really ANTI-social. Does that make any sense?
Sometimes I wish it wasn't. I really wish we had a family or families where I was friends with the wife, David and the husband were friends, and our kids were friends. I think that would be alot of fun. It just hasn't happened yet. And even though I'm ok with that. I feel like I shouldn't be.
I think I am just really guarded now. I would much rather be by myself, with my family, than constantly with "friends" that use me, are fake with me, or suck me dry and give nothing in return. I don't have the energy anymore!

What do you think the Adult Rules of Friendship are?