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Easing A Heartache
Tonite my little girl's heart was hurting. A school friend is moving away and she has been sad about it all week. So she cried and I cried with her. I didn't know what else to do. I feel helpless, and it stinks. Gone are the days of protecting her from everything. I cannot kiss this hurt and make it better. All I can do is hold her and encourage her and sing her to sleep, which I did. As she finally fell off to sleep I looked at her sweet little face, although it's a little older now, I can still see the faint outline of my baby underneath. Sometimes I forget just how new she is to this old world. And I know this is just the first of many heartaches to come. It has not been so long that I have forgotten what it's like to ache at the thought of missing someone; or the sinking feeling of disappointment that accompanies the knowledge that you may never see them again. But I told her that it was better to have known him for a little while than to have never met him. I thought about how happiness and pain go hand in hand, though I did not say it to her in those words. She will learn that hard lesson time and time again, but it is part of living--and life is a beautiful, wonderful, difficult, painful thing all rolled into one. Even knowing this, who of us would choose to sit it out? 1 comments from 1 users
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Mom2CandC
on Oct 15, 2008 at 05:27 PM
We went through this about a year ago with the youngest (then 3) and his best friend in preschool...she was just the cutest, sweetest little girl and they truely had a unique and genuine friendship I had never seen before. Her last day of preschool, I cried as we left....hiding my tears from my son and everyone else. He was sad, refused to go for a few days, cried and was just basically not that pleasant for some time. Then, he returned after the Christmas holiday, and became fast friends with another friend in school...he has many friends; but, really one great best friend. Unfortunately, the little girl that moved away is now in another state. However, her family stays in touch and we have many pictures to remind us of the fun times with his friend. We email and send pictures. It's nice to keep in touch - but, does take effort on both parts. It's a stinky part of growing up....and I still feel sad when I think of Caden and his sadness when his best friend left. But, have faith! Your daughter will move on...encourage her to stay in touch with this friend. Do what you can to keep it working. If they move out of town, or state, email and send pictures, cards at special times, and hand colored creations by your child....it's a great way to keep the kids in touch. Most of all, let your daughter know that it's okay to be sad - and that this too shall pass!
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